November 6, 2013
There are two kinds of people in the world people who admit they lie and people who lie about lying, lying can be as simple as a mild exaggeration or a lie to a spouse about an affair, even though nearly 52 percent of people said lying was never ok according to an AP poll, a third of people said it was ok to lie in certain scenarios, so the question arises where do we draw the line?
As mentioned earlier a third of people think it is ok to lie in certain situations, such as protecting someone’s feelings. “ Telling a white lie to protect someone is ok by me” says De Anza student Alex Kamara. Nearly everyone I had interviewed had similar feelings which are that if you tell the truth all the time with no filter or buffer you’ll be bound to hurt someone’s feeling eventually.
For example being asked out on a date by someone who doesn’t interest you romantically is an awkward situation because you don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings leaving them upset and sad, it could be better to simply say you’re busy or you have a boyfriend/girlfriend already and thanks for the offer. I asked for other examples of this and student Bryan Fobbs said “ It’s like telling a kid their pet ran away instead of saying they died.” An excellent example because we don’t believe a child could handle it at their age.
Now onto lies that could potentially run into a less socially acceptable level, in AP’s poll very few people would admit that lying on your taxes, to your spouse or on a career resume. So why are these lies so different than the first kinds we looked at? “Lying is a part of life but, not that kind.” said Elijah Wilkinson. I think people fell this way because these lies have the potentially to harm others if not yourself, lying on your taxes is a serious penalty that can result in fines and jail time, lying on a resume can hurt your career chances farther down the line and finally lying about or even participating in an affair can definitely hurt other’s feelings and your relationship.
“The difference is with a white lie, no one is supposed to get hurt.” said De Anza student Yousef Shahin. With these kinds of lie you can say there is/will be a victim at some point because of it. “People always want to make everything black and white, but we often miss the gray area in between.” said Trevor Altier, a De Anza sophomore.